Learning to love myself is a slow process

I have been reading about self hatred.
I have a few symptoms
Perfectionism
Harsh self-talk
Attraction to negative relationships

One great definition of self hatred I found was "anger at yourself". Bingo. That's me.
I get angry at myself when I feel I haven't met the standards of others Or my own harsh standards for myself


But I also have a healthy part of me.
The healthy part of myself wants me to be
Compassionate to myself
To respond kindly to my needs and desires
To believe I deserve love

I am a hopeless romantic but I am starting to understand that compassion and love for yourself is a greater love than the love of a partner-- simply because no one can give us the kind of love we can give ourselves.

Black Rose